DATING: WHY YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE A “BESTIE” OF THE OPPOSITE SEX

It is not uncommon these days to have partners in serious relationships keeping a member of the opposite sex as a best friend.

They simply call this other person a “Bestie”

Some even call these besties sweet names like baby, honey, dear and the likes. They flaunt him/her on social media even more than their partners and when you ask them, they’d say, “we are just best friends “

There’s never anything wrong in having a best friend when you’re in a relationship but there might be something wrong if this best friend of yours is a member of the opposite sex.

First, you need to understand that, when you call someone your partner, the love of your life and so on, that person is supposed to be your bestie and not someone else.

If you can’t see your partner as your best friend, if you can’t share special moments with them and open up to them about issues bothering you, then there’s a problem.

A lot of relationships are hitting the rocks lately because of the presence of a third wheel called the Bestie. A relationship is supposed to be between two persons. Have you forgotten that three is a crowd?

Your relationship is not as interesting as it used to be simply because you don’t talk to your partner anymore, you don’t spend quality time with them. Rather, you spend long hours talking on the phone with your bestie, you stay up late at night chatting with them. If you value your relationship, you really need to set boundaries or else your partner may walk away.

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Having a bestie of the opposite sex may make your partner act so insecure. Insecurity is one of the reasons why relationships don’t last no more. How do you expect them to feel when you give time, attention, gift and energy into another person who’s not them? It’s so wrong to make your partner feel so insecure so cut it already.

In addition, do you know stories of Besties getting intimates are everywhere? It’s a fact that most best friends of the opposite sex become friends with benefit. Do not make your partner doubt your loyalty. You need a bestie, your partner is there.

Moreover, having a bestie of the opposite sex may make your partner feel they are not enough. That’s a very bad feeling that may destroy your relationship. Save yourself the strength by dating someone who is a total package for you. Don’t have a girlfriend/boyfriend you can’t see a bestie in. It’s that simple!

Take home point is, let your partner be your best friend, it’s solidifies your relationship and pave way for a stronger bond between you two. Respect your partner by focusing all your attention on them, make them feel special. Stop using pet names like baby, my love, honey etc for someone who you’re not dating or your bestie, it’s disrespectful.

Let your partner knows your loyalty lies only with them. Talk about any issues lingering on instead of calling someone else into it. Do not let bestie scatter your relationship ooo!

Oya, let’s talk, will you allow your partner have a best friend of the opposite sex?

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